You can use Hyperterm to connect,then you can then open your other program after the handshake..
Simply enter this into hyperterm
atat [The # here] and then add a semicolon (;) (This puts the modem in standby mode (For more tones entered from you,etc)
Example: atdt 18004443333;
When you hear the modem answer,type ATO and your modem should handshake with the host....
Then close Hyperterm and open your other program