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Re: Sad news I'm so very sorry for your loss... I lost my grandfather to cancer just under 2 months ago, it was a battle for him, but things went downhill really fast the last month of his time with us...
It still hasn't fully sinked in for me, but that emptiness is there. You and your family are in my thoughts. 
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I don't know why the post with this picture that I thought I made earlier in the thread didn't show, but in any case.....
candle
The loss of a loved one is always a difficult time, and there is little if anything anyone can say that *really* helps, although the intentions on saying it are good. Remember that your mother is always alive in the hearts and minds of those that knew and loved her, and the greatest gift is always that of carrying on the things that were important to her. She will always be a light in your world.
(apologies for the quality of the pic; it was a candle lit in a completely dark church, and picture taken with an iPhone)
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 vue666Humour,no one takes it seriouslyPremium
join:2007-12-07
Halifax, NS | It was a week ago yesterday Mom was buried. I'm so depressed I can't really do anything. I watched 4 NHL hockey games in the last 4 nights and I can barely recall who played let alone who won... 
The only thing that seems to relax me is trying to digital paint but at times it's a vast chore....
I was able to record some of her voice messages on my work phone to mp3...
Getting old is not fun. |
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Your beloved Marcia :-) |
Your mother would want you to get on with your life and be happy. I know this is easier said than done.
Look into a last minute trip to Cuba for a week with your dad. That would defnitly help change your mind and cheer you up. And when you come back, it is likely everything will be white and cold while you are your dad will be deeply bronzed |
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This whole thing brought a tear in my eyes. I never knew you or your mom, but she seems to be special to you. I've been through this with my father, and I can tell you it will get better. Now is the time to grieve and don't be shy to shed a tear. And shed you will. They will help you come to peace with yourself. But also, seek out the good memories and smile at them as the time to grieve must come to an end one day. Now most of the time is for tears, and as time goes on there will be fewer tears and more joy for the fact you had her.
In the end, the good memories are what really matter. From the pictures you've posted I can see that she was a happy person. Keep the good memories and the happiness going on, for her sake.
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Pick me up in the Vette. I'll show you around Bowling Green. I drive well. |
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jfmezeiPremium
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Pointe-Claire, QC
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said by Black Box:This whole thing brought a tear in my eyes. I never knew you or your mom, but she seems to be special to you.
I think that Mr Vue has very eloquently expressed his feelings in such a way that we also were touched by her departure.
But if we are to be his virtual friends, shouldn't we be trying to cheer him up and get him to enjoy life once again. One can enjoy life, laugh and eat while still respecting and remembering departed loved ones.
Hey, if you're going to goto Cuba with your dad, I suggest you watch "Airplane !!!" the night before you leave to get you into the mood for your flight to Cuba |
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vue666Humour,no one takes it seriouslyPremium
join:2007-12-07
Halifax, NS | reply to Rifleman
said by Rifleman:Pick me up in the Vette. I'll show you around Bowling Green. I drive well.
I'm starting to lose interests in a lot of my past passions and YES the Corvette is becoming one of them... Perhaps over time it'll change...
The only thing that seems to ease my pain is digital painting... |
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 IIgsPremium
join:2002-10-05
Montreal, QC
kudos:1 | reply to vue666
said by vue666:It was a week ago yesterday Mom was buried. I'm so depressed I can't really do anything. I watched 4 NHL hockey games in the last 4 nights and I can barely recall who played let alone who won...
The only thing that seems to relax me is trying to digital paint but at times it's a vast chore....
I was able to record some of her voice messages on my work phone to mp3...
Getting old is not fun.
It's almost uncanny, but you sound exactly like me when I lost my dad to a brain tumor two years ago. I was so deeply depressed I couldn't enjoy ANYTHING leading up to and after his death...I couldn't watch TV, see movies, read books, do the usual stuff to cheer me up, my mind was elsewhere. I couldn't focus on anything but the pain. I seriously felt like I was living in a nightmare that I couldn't wake up from, it seemed unreal.
I can say it's completely normal to feel the way you do. It's painful losing a parent like that. No one should be telling you to "cheer up"; they of course mean well, but I don't think they understand.
As someone who's gone through the same situation, just know in time, eventually, you'll get through this. I don't think the pain ever fully goes away, I still think about my father constantly, but there will be better times than right now. You probably think I'm crazy telling you that, but trust me, it will. Try and remember that, there will be happy times again.
Do spend time with your family, especially your father. It may be painful, but talking about it with them may help. Or any of us here, hopefully we can help too! |
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| I've been like that since 96 or so------right down to food. I live on pizza-----it's fast and enjoyment is not a factor.
People tend to isolate themselves when depressed.
I'm much better than I was but I'm here alone and prefer it that way. Years ago the house was always full of family and friends.
Like the above poster said----with time you'll feel better. Do whatever helps you cope. Anything is better than sitting there dwelling on it. I used to sleep 15-18 hours a day to cope. It's gonna be a long winter.
If it gets worse-----go see your doctor. Take care and all the best. |
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vue666Humour,no one takes it seriouslyPremium
join:2007-12-07
Halifax, NS | reply to vue666
Today is Mom's birthday. She was born on Christmas Eve and would have been 79 today. It's also 2 weeks ago today she was buried.
Dad & I went to the burial site and wished her happy birthday.
God how I miss her... |
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Pointe-Claire, QC
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| Vue, your story touched many of us here and we'll be thinking of what you are going through during this season.
I envy you in a way because of the way your mother passed away and how your family is still together. And that message where she managed to "say" "I love you" really resonated.
To put things in perspective, my evil ex sisters haven't even told me what they did with my dad's ashes. He died dec 25 2010. I fear thew threw him in the garbage to save on burrial costs so they can get more money from the estate.
So your mother died well, surrounded by love and that fact that you and your dad can go together to her grave site shows that she stil has the power to keep the family together.
Celebrate her life instead of grieving her death. |
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join:2000-10-26
New Port Richey, FL
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said by vue666:God how I miss her...
Vue, it's been over 16 years since I lost my mom. I miss her every day and the conversations we used to have. Ever since that day in June, 1995, I honor her memory by living the best life I can despite all of my medical problems.
Do not give in to despair or funk but rather remember all the good times and live your life the way she undoubtedly raised you- to be caring, polite, considerate, all the good traits a parent hopes their child will have.
Remember the good times while she was here and she will always be with you.
Dwell on how she lived and not on how she passed. My sincere condolences.
All the best,
Mike
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Beverly Hills, CA | said by mikepd:Do not give in to despair or ... right now - it's impossible. after a while it will just be easier. |
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vue666Humour,no one takes it seriouslyPremium
join:2007-12-07
Halifax, NS | Today December 28th is my Dad's 81st birthday. It is also 3 weeks today that my Mom passed away... |
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Pointe-Claire, QC
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| Hey vue, I really liked your moose lake image BTW.
And a virtual happy birthday to your dad. I know there is a big unhealed hole in his (and your) life, but try to enjoy the birthday.
Heck why not download some porn to show to your dad ? It is a great way to show older people what the internet can do 
(Hey, this is DSLR, you had to expect a suggestion like this would come up eventually
or perhaps you can tune in to CTV to watch Marcia with your dad |
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vue666Humour,no one takes it seriouslyPremium
join:2007-12-07
Halifax, NS | Been watching Winds of War
»www.imdb.com/title/tt0085112/
and it's sequel War and Remembrance
»www.imdb.com/title/tt0096725/
on DVD with Dad. He likes WWII movies and documentaries as well as anything to do with history or automotive... |
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vue666Humour,no one takes it seriouslyPremium
join:2007-12-07
Halifax, NS | It's 3 weeks ago today Mom was buried. Time is healing but very, very slowly.... |
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mikepdDiscoveryPremium,MVM
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| said by Black Box:Don't expect anything else. It takes a lot of time, but as you see, you'll be better. Keep soldiering on!
I agree that time will eventually make things easier to bear. It does take time and some effort but given them, things will get better.
All the very best,
Mike
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