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[Food] Romantic in Upper West Side, Manhattan NYC

I'm not a big fan of huge fancy first dates as your still just getting to know each other and whether you would like to continue seeing each other. Then too there's the stories about how some gals are going out on these first dates just to try lavish new restaurants.

Of course, if its some place you want to go... then by all means do so
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Calle Ocho is not a huge fancy place is the reason why I chose it , The price seems reasonable. I went there back in April 11' just for Sangrias though, thought about giving it a try for more.

But you're correct, I am not trying to go all out on the first date, its just not smart.

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After reading this, I think I want to change my mind now for the first date. I have talked to her on the phone for the past few days and text but I want to be a challenge so she can stay interested and be even more interested in me.

So if anyone of you know of a safe quiet boring place to go for a drink and maybe lead into a few more drinks and just chat, to get a real feel of her face to face let me know.

I can do Calle Ocho for our 2nd or 3rd date, because it does sound too typical, boring and palyed out going to dinner on a first date.

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I've met Eric -- good guy with sound advice.
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You could always ask her if she has a local favorite place.

You must plan the date. Meet her somewhere a short distance away from the place and take her there.
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What happens in the second or third dates?

Rob. Really? Stop dwelling on tomorrows so much & make the best of today.

Enjoy each other. If anything is meant to be -- it will be

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You're racking your brain too much man and are going to over-think this.

Take for her a nice dinner at The Cottage. It's a great ambiance and has a nice upscale feel about the place, but it's not expensive, the food is excellent, service is fast, and it also has a nice laid back feel to it.

Then take her to a nice show, maybe The Blue Man Group or something like that. Tickets aren't too expensive. Check Ticketmaster for other shows that you might like and that you think she'll enjoy. The key here is to have fun with her. She'll love that. Much better than trying to impress her.

Afterwards, if the weather isn't frigid, drive up by Columbia University and take her for a nice walk through the campus. It's a beautiful feel at night and gives you guys a chance to talk more and spend time together.
If it's too cold for that, then go to a Starbucks or a café and grab desert and a hot chocolate and sit and talk some more. Get to know one another, spend time together. You don't need to over-think this. She will see through the smoke if you try to hard.

Women like a challenge, yes, but if that's not naturally you, then don't try to be something/someone you're not. Believe me it will backfire on you. Women love a guy who can make them laugh all the time. Be funny, but not goofy funny otherwise you'll come off like a clown or a dork. Be a little cocky, but not over the top otherwise you risk looking like an arrogant ass or a jerk. The perfect mix is cocky+funny.

Be relaxed. Don't try too hard otherwise you're going to shoot yourself in the foot and loose this girl. Believe me, I've got TONS of dating experience. Ask her a lot of questions about herself. This way you get her talking and she feels you are interested in her, and you also get to know her better past the initial attraction/infatuation.

Stop over-thinking this. Also, if you drive, you go pick her up, don't make her come to you. Bring her a single rose. Choose a nice color other than Red (it's too clichéd, and it also shows a bit of originality). If you don't drive, take the train/bus to pick her up and you two leave from there together. If she is more comfortable meeting you rather than you coming to pick her up at her home since this is a first date, then make sure you are there early, don't keep her waiting for you. Don't have her meet you at the restaurant, meet someplace close to the restaurant that's neutral, and then walk over there together. Don't tell her what the plans are for the evening, surprise her; just tell her to dress nicely, but comfortable.

Dinner, the show, and the quality time afterwards should all flow one into the other smoothly, but for her it should be a night of you taking the lead and showing her a wonderful time without trying so hard. And with my advice, the whole evening won't break the bank for you either.

Good luck and let us know how it goes. Follow my advice and you'll do fine.
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So fill us in. What happened? How did things go?

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