said by mmainprize:
Make two rules. 1) mark it as read, 2) delete it. Both client rules.
I think that works.
I created 1 rule that says from my address mark as read. That's a client side rule and is first.
I created a 2nd rule that says from my address move to deleted items (rather than delete it, not sure that makes a difference). That one is a server side rule.
Seems to be working correctly now. If outlook is open, the email gets moved to deleted items and I never see it at all (since it's marked as read) and if outlook is closed, it still gets moved to deleted items and I never see it on my phone.
EDIT: Actually, I had to add a stop processing more rules to the 2nd rule. I guess if you move to deleted, another rule can still move that item to another box.