Thanks for the replys...
I have 3 domains on my server, 2 with email and I am hosting all of them on the server. I have fios and had some weird issues, had to employ dyndns mailhop relay to get around port blockages but port 443 is fine. I never could get the phones to sync until I put a cert on my domain. Maybe it was an oversite on my part. My exchange 2003 server worked fine without a ssl and thought it was just something that 2007 required.
Riamen, how do you like exchange 2010?--