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2012-Nov-29 6:50 pm
ok a strange topic: Dissolving Grandma. Part DeuxOriginal: » ok a strange topic: Dissolving GrandmaSo far the method was not approved here when I was asked to look into it. Gov is balking at the water consumption, which really isn't that much at all. Stall tactic. More to do with acceptance. But, today: Sask. approves liquifying bodies as alternative to traditional cremation » cnews.canoe.ca/CNEWS/Wei ··· 361.htmlSaskatchewan has become the first province to approve a new method of body disposal. Coming soon to a funeral home (and your water supply) near you. Anyone have a problem with dissolving their mom or grandma and flushing her? |
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2012-Nov-29 7:09 pm
said by Curious me :Anyone have a problem with dissolving their mom or grandma and flushing her?
Nope. But I think in what way a person wants their body disposed of ought to be up to them to decide (and fund). If Mom or Grandma left no instructions or money for their wishes, then perhaps they didn't really care one way or the other. It makes no real scientific difference how (or over what time-frame) the elements of their body makes it back into the universe in the form of something else. If you have a particular religious belief that's up to you to worry about. |
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2012-Nov-29 7:16 pm
said by Ian1:But I think in what way a person wants their body disposed of ought to be up to them to decide People who want to dictate their own funeral and burial/cremation/whatever plans are selfish on a level to which I simply cannot comprehend. Funerals and interment aren't for the person who died. They're for the people left behind. |
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2012-Nov-29 7:28 pm
said by Gone:Funerals and interment aren't for the person who died. They're for the people left behind.
Peoples wishes (the dead people) should come first. This is only respect, no? After a viewing, does it really mater if they are buried in dirt, water, burned or dissolved? Or does it really affect the "closure" of the loved one left behind when the "loved one" didn't see mom's remains disposed of per their own selfish wishes for their own closure instead of the dead ones true wishes? Hmm Two sides, but I think the dead persons wish (if any, if affordable etc) comes first. |
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2012-Nov-29 7:35 pm
said by hm :Peoples wishes (the dead people) should come first. This is only respect, no? Respect for what, exactly? You're dead. Gone. Expired. No longer part of this Earth. Maybe you're in heaven, maybe you're in eternal oblivion, but either way you won't care. The only thing that matters are the people left behind, their memories of you and how they want to celebrate your life and continue to remember you while they're still living. Telling them how they can mourn and remember you after you're gone is nothing more than attempting to maintain a certain self-centred arrogance from beyond the grave, and something I refuse to be a part of. My wishes are quite simple - whatever my loved ones want. If they want to dissolve, flush me down the toilet and then use whatever money I may have left aside for something else, so be it. I'll be dead and gone and won't care, so my "wishes" are of little relevance. What they do is not for me to decide. It's for them. That's what respect is all about, not the other way around. |
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said by Gone:Funerals and interment aren't for the person who died. They're for the people left behind.
So if my loved ones want to sell my dead body to a traveling carnival to mummify and make a ring-toss game out of, that's a-OK, regardless of my own wishes on it? I think the law is very much on the side of you getting to decide your own arrangements, and if you didn't, for your loved ones to do so. If they think it's a-ok to light on fire, or to flush them down the drain, that's their issue, not mine. It's a discussion for the family involved. |
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I'm with Gone on this one. I don't care if my loved ones dump my body in a ditch when I'm gone. In fact, I encourage it. I have no further use for my body at that point. |
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2012-Nov-29 8:05 pm
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said by Gone:said by hm :Peoples wishes (the dead people) should come first. This is only respect, no? Respect for what, exactly? ok |
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2012-Nov-29 8:06 pm
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said by TLS2000:I'm with Gone on this one. I don't care if my loved ones dump my body in a ditch when I'm gone. In fact, I encourage it. I have no further use for my body at that point.
But, that's what you so wish. So your wishes will be respected. |
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said by TLS2000:I'm with Gone on this one. I don't care if my loved ones dump my body in a ditch when I'm gone. In fact, I encourage it. I have no further use for my body at that point.
That's your belief, and I hope you've let your loved ones know your wishes. This is a case, of people having a diversity of opinion on it. From the original cited article. quote:
"We believe this process, which enables a portion of human remains to be flushed down a drain, to be undignified," Patrick McGee, a spokesman for the Roman Catholic Diocese of Manchester, once told USA Today.
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2012-Nov-29 8:17 pm
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said by Ian1:So if my loved ones want to sell my dead body to a traveling carnival to mummify and make a ring-toss game out of, that's a-OK, regardless of my own wishes on it? I think the bigger question is why do you even care? It's no longer about you. It's about them. Telling your family what they can and cannot do to remember you after you're long and dead is nothing short of self-serving and, indeed, disrespectful of the people who are left behind. It's them who are remembering you, not you remembering yourself. Furthermore, legally, you have no right to dictate what happens to you after you die. It is strictly up to your family. The only right you have is to dispose of your assets, and even then there things that can cause your wishes to be overrideen. When it comes to the funeral and internment of the body, your family can to put you into a cannon and shoot you off into outer space there's nothing you can do from beyond the grave to stop them. |
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No, it's about the law, and the right of the deceased to have their will executed as desired. Period. The living have no say about it. |
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2012-Nov-29 8:21 pm
said by Juggernaut:No, it's about the law, and the right of the deceased to have their will executed as desired. Period. The living have no say about it. Wrong. The will only deals with the disposition of assets. You have no legal entitlement to dictate your own funeral plans. You can express your wishes to your family, but they are not bound by them. |
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That statement requires a legal citation. I don't buy it. |
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2012-Nov-29 8:33 pm
said by Juggernaut:That statement requires a legal citation. I don't buy it. From the horses mouth, perhaps? said by »www.sse.gov.on.ca/mcs/en ··· s.aspx#1 :
Who has the legal authority to decide what will happen to the body of a deceased person?
In order of priority it is:
An estate trustee (also called an executor or executrix) who is named in the deceased person's will (or, an administrator appointed by the court)
A spouse
Adult children.
If you are an estate trustee, expect to provide photo ID and proof of your authority (like a will or court order) before you make arrangements.
I am sure other provinces in Canada and even states in the US are similar. You can name who you want responsible for the funeral and the handling of the will, but you have no legal authority to dictate exactly how they proceed with those plans. |
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2012-Nov-29 8:36 pm
It's also worth pointing out that by the time a last will is read, the funeral will be long over.
In other words - they get to decide, not you. |
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The executor or executrix, has a legal obligation to follow the will (desires) of the deceased. |
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said by Gone:said by Ian1:So if my loved ones want to sell my dead body to a traveling carnival to mummify and make a ring-toss game out of, that's a-OK, regardless of my own wishes on it? I think the bigger question is why do you even care? It's no longer about you. It's about them. Telling your family what they can and cannot do to remember you after you're long and dead is nothing short of self-serving and, indeed, disrespectful of the people who are left behind. It's them who are remembering you, not you remembering yourself. Your own personal opinions. And opinions not necessarily shared by others. Suppose you had religious beliefs that were that however "whole" your body was in the weeks, months, or years after death, would dictate how you would be in some sort of after-life? This is actually one of the reasons why people don't wish to donate organs after death. Should your family have the the right to deviate from your religious beliefs? said by Gone:Furthermore, legally, you have no right to dictate what happens to you after you die. It is strictly up to your family.
Your knowledge of the law on this is clearly deficient. If in the form of a legal will, you designate what is to happen to your remains, your executor (who may or may not be a family member) is not only responsible for, but is legally-bound to follow your wishes to the letter, so long as your wishes were legal and funded by your estate. As with anything else in a legal will, it would be up to the family to challenge the will in court if they had ideas for disposing of your body at odds with your own. |
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said by hm :said by TLS2000:I'm with Gone on this one. I don't care if my loved ones dump my body in a ditch when I'm gone. In fact, I encourage it. I have no further use for my body at that point.
But, that's what you so wish. So your wishes will be respected. Or they could spend untold thousands of dollars. My point was it doesn't matter, because I'll be dead. I'd rather that they didn't waste their money on a funeral, but if they feel the need to do so it's their choice. |
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After reading an article about this method I was at odds with this feeling it was an unusual means to deal with a corpse. maybe its the up and coming thing but not something I would desire or chose for my loved ones. there is something about the aspect of the remaining liquid being fit to flush down a drain that bothers me. i can totally accept the traditional methods of a casket burial or cremation followed by burial or dispersion of ashes. but the liquid down the drain piece seems too immediate and mundane . from my point of view a human life with all the memories, experiences, love and contributions deserves something better than being flushed down the drain, like draining the dish water out of the sink after washing the dinner plates and pots. at least its not something i would do to my family or hope they would not do that to me. whats next. collect the liquid for reprocessing, put it in the green bin, road side collection, soylent green |
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said by Juggernaut:The executor or executrix, has a legal obligation to follow the will (desires) of the deceased. ... and funeral arrangements are not part of a will, because a will is dealt with weeks - and sometimes months - after a funeral has passed. You can pick an executor you trust and express your wishes to them, but they have the final say. Like I said, they can shoot you off into space and there's nothing you can do from beyond the grave to stop them. |
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2012-Nov-29 8:47 pm
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said by Gone:Wrong. The will only deals with the disposition of assets. You have no legal entitlement to dictate your own funeral plans. You can express your wishes to your family, but they are not bound by them.
Dunno about that. I know people who per-arranged and it's all taken care of from the time they drop dead. The persons wishes are adhered to strictly, per contract. In a second case, w/o the family even knowing, I know another who arranged with a uni to take her body. As soon as it got to the hospital, staff told family, you have 3-hrs that's it. She is in room such and such. I was late coming from Ottawa, they kept her on ice (so to speak) for me an extra hour (they were being kind). No say. All you get is a thank you note, cremation done for free, and maybe her ashes if you want them from whatever body part they cremated (who knows where the rest ends up, and some end up in Dog training school in Ottawa for RCMP dogs.. find the head boy). A legal document like a will is no different. If someone wanted to they could go to court to force your last wishes. Or are you saying a will is not a legal document? Or are you saying how you will your body has no legal standing in Canada or the prov's? Think you may be wrong here. But anyhow, what does it matter. To go against someone wishes is just wrong... unless financial circumstances dictate otherwise, or if you are stuck paying it. Now most people have no such contract(s) or even a will for that matter. And many people, as exampled above, just don't care either way. In these cases, yeah, do what you want. But anyhow, I don't think there is a right or wrong (unless going against someone wishes and the financial means are left for their wishes). It's all open choice and money. So in this circumstance there is no right and wrong. Flush, burn, bury, fish-food... all gravy. So does flushing grandma and maybe having her pass through a water treatment plant to end up in your pot of soup that you're making gross some people out here? |
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Really... I've read my fathers will (he's long gone), and my mothers as well. She's alive right now. I am the executor of her will.
My fathers will was opened by a lawyer upon his death, and his wishes were carried out by the executor. The lawyer made sure his final wishes were carried out to the letter. |
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said by Ian1:Your knowledge of the law on this is clearly deficient. If in the form of a legal will, you designate what is to happen to your remains, your executor (who may or may not be a family member) is not only responsible for, but is legally-bound to follow your wishes to the letter, so long as your wishes were legal and funded by your estate. As with anything else in a legal will, it would be up to the family to challenge the will in court if they had ideas for disposing of your body at odds with your own. Bzzzt wrong. Funeral arrangements are not part of a will. Hell, a will isn't even dealt with until long after a funeral has passed. A will *only* deals with disposition of assets - in other words, you pay for your funeral out of your estate, but beyond that you cannot legally dictate the service or how your remains are dealt with. You can express your wishes to your executor, but they are not legally bound to do exactly what you want. It's an identical situation as with organ donation. For someone who claims that *my* knowledge of the law is deficient, you may wish to educate yourself on this topic first. Think about it - if funeral arrangements and body disposal were legally binding, what would happen if someone's will contained some sort of funeral or disposal provision that was logistically or financially impossible for the estate to perform? You think any of that would be legally binding? It's not. It's up to the executor. You have no say - end of story. If the idea of being able to tell people how they are entitled to celebrate your life after you die brings you comfort, so be it. It doesn't mean that they are bound to do what you want, though. Edit - the custody of minor children are also dealt with in a will, but since we're talking finances I figured that was a given. |
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2012-Nov-29 8:51 pm
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Found another article on it, which is a bit of BS since I was involved in seeing if we could get it done and the gov here refused. While the Funeral and Cremation Services Council of Saskatchewan has approved alkaline hydrolysis, no one has installed a machine yet, says chairman Todd Lumbard. “People don’t know much about it, so they’re not demanding it,” he says.Not installed because of regulation. Nothing else is holding it back. Not even lack of demand. » www2.macleans.ca/2012/11 ··· e-314673They say your mom can even be used for your garden fertilizer. I never thought about that... I only thought of her ending up in your mashed potatoes.  |
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said by Juggernaut:My fathers will was opened by a lawyer upon his death, and his wishes were carried out by the executor. The lawyer made sure his final wishes were carried out to the letter. Was his lawyer the executor? That's not unheard of. If his lawyer wasn't, he wouldn't have had any legal authority to dictate anything. |
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Interesting thread.
Myself, when I am dead, I personally think I am you know, gone.
And the idea that several 10s of thousands of dollars is going to be wasted on my funeral actually appalls me and disgusts me down to the core of my cheap assed Scottish background.
When I die, I'd like it to be a party. Don't waste the fucking money, enjoy the party damn it. I want my friends enjoying a round, several rounds even, a great dinner and have a good time (I hope my passing is not seen as "I'm glad he's dead' of course).
I want there to be great expensive t bone steaks, and some really good drinks. I want music, lots of music and not just loud music I want it to be great music.
No one knows what happens when we die. But I do know I won't need my stuff, and, well I'm done with the body too eh. Hey, regardless of where I am going, the body is no longer needed.
And if there IS an afterlife, and I see those left behind wasting a lot of cash on an over rated box and a hole in the ground. Well I will not have anything polite to say to them when they die and catch up with me.
I have no life insurance, because frankly I am NOT making plans to waste money on a corpse. Those I leave behind, will be wasting THEIR money if they desperately need to do so. |
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Yes hm, I read about it in Macleans
I'm on the fence about it , the fertilizer resulting in mashed potatoes is interesting as it fits my beliefs of reincarnation and that. What bothers me is I prefer to see a bit more of a time lag or breakdown of things. Bury me under a tree, tree makes acorns, squirrel eats the acorns, I become part of the squirrel and so on vs spread the liquid over the field and then same fall harvest humans eat the new potatos |
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2012-Nov-29 9:03 pm
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said by Sukunai:Interesting thread.
Myself, when I am dead, I personally think I am you know, gone.
So in other words, you couldn't care less if you were dissolved and flushed. Maybe used as liquid fertilizer for your loved ones tomato plants. The consensus so far (except for maybe 3 of us) is, who cares. Interesting. Who else wants to be flushed? |
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said by Gone:said by Ian1:Your knowledge of the law on this is clearly deficient. If in the form of a legal will, you designate what is to happen to your remains, your executor (who may or may not be a family member) is not only responsible for, but is legally-bound to follow your wishes to the letter, so long as your wishes were legal and funded by your estate. As with anything else in a legal will, it would be up to the family to challenge the will in court if they had ideas for disposing of your body at odds with your own. Bzzzt wrong. Funeral arrangements are not part of a will. Hell, a will isn't even dealt with until long after a funeral has passed. A will *only* deals with disposition of assets - in other words, you pay for your funeral out of your estate, but beyond that you cannot legally dictate the service or how your remains are dealt with. You can express your wishes to your executor, but they are not legally bound to do exactly what you want. It's an identical situation as with organ donation. Yes, you're completely, and wholly wrong on this. The very first duties of an executor are to locate and read the will. They then arrange the funeral according to the wishes of the person who wrote the will. If pre-arrangements were made (and they often are) those arrangements will happen. That this happens weeks, months or years before the estate is finally closed, is irrelevant. said by Gone: Think about it - if funeral arrangements and body disposal were legally binding, what would happen if someone's will contained some sort of funeral or disposal provision that was logistically or financially impossible for the estate to perform?
I have a suspicion that this doesn't come up much. An executor is bound to do what the will specifies to the best of their abilities. And if that's to bury you in a crystal mausoleum instead of being flushed down the drain, the executor will honour your wishes over those of your loved ones. As they are legally bound to. Disagree with that? That's fine. Irrelevant, but fine. |
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