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linicx
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The real issue is. . .

The guns Glock & Sig used were owned and registered to the mother and readily available. The kid killed his mother and sated his rage on the children who got more of her attention than he did.

This did not happen at high school, college, or to adults at a theater. It was not an accident. The shooter died a craven coward who massacred young defenseless children.

The blood and guts are gone. The real victims went to school as small children and came home as little adults who witnessed more in five minutes than most of us will ever see in a lifetime.

The smartest thing the mothers can do is turn on Mickey mouse and let it run for 24/7. Give him a blanket and pillow and let him sleep where he can. It might be a closet or a corner behind a chair. Let the kid work it out as best he can for a few days. He may not eat or sleep for 2-3 days. Finger foods are good... dry cereal, peanut butter, soup. He will come back to earth in good time. Then the parents can worry about PTSD. They will know more by then.

Close the school 'til January. Let the kid grieve. It is a long process; do not force him back to school. Home school if he is not ready. Little kids are more resilient than big kids. Even so, time takes time to pass. It's what they need now.

Some parents will be really lucky because their kid really doesn't understand. He is unaffected now, but maybe not a month from now. Or a year.
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CXM_Splicer
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Somehow I feel Mickey Mouse 24/7 is not the answer. Distracting kids from the situation now will only make dealing with it later that much worse.

How is childhood trauma dealt with elsewhere? How is it dealt with in Iraq or Afghanistan or Syria? (Do we really even care?) How was it dealt with in Vietnam? or Europe during WW2?

I see PTSD as the brain trying to adjust too quickly to the destruction of a fantasy world. That fantasy is the one where people feel everything is fine... they are secure and nothing will ever hurt them as long as they are good people. People want to feel this way... like someone else is protecting them and they don't have to worry about anything. It is people not wanting to grow up... the psychological foundation to Government, Religion, Authority, so much of our lives.

Mickey is the problem, not the solution.


linicx
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Adult TV is not the answer. Mickey & Minnie, Popeye & Olive Oil, Tom & Jerry, Will E. Coyote & Roadrunner didn't kill, didn't get hurt and there was a moral: good triumphs over evil. It's for the youngest child. A 10 year old has different diversions.

And yes it IS a distraction but only for a few seconds at a time. He is going to try to process the noise he heard before the gun, where he hid, what he heard while he was in hiding, how the police, fire and EMT sirens made him feel, how walking single file with eyes closed made him feel, etc..

Some children will never return to that school. Some may never attend another public school. Some will have "panic" attacks they cannot articulate. Hopefully the loving child psychologist and psychiatrists won't view the massacre as a cash cow - thereby deserting a child from a poor family. As a professional there are times when one does pro bono work because it is the right thing to do for the right reason.

In the scheme of life one hour is nothing.
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Beans5

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The real issue is people who think it is cool to pick on other people, because they just want to join in, or because they cant face their own issues in life and take it out on the little guy.

The real issue is fathers, or mothers, or people close to the family that bring abusive behavier to the kid(s) because they went throught it themselves, and didn't take care of there own problems so they vented their past on there kids, or whatever issues they have.

The real issue is, that the kid was neglected and wasn't taught the things of a man, or people refused to help/teach that kid so he can be a good person.


FFH5
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said by Beans5:

The real issue is, that the kid was neglected and wasn't taught the things of a man, or people refused to help/teach that kid so he can be a good person.

Was he? No proof of that so far.

Beans5

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said by FFH5:

said by Beans5:

The real issue is, that the kid was neglected and wasn't taught the things of a man, or people refused to help/teach that kid so he can be a good person.

Was he? No proof of that so far.

Just because a person is there doen't mean that they "are there".


Larrz

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And don't exploit them on the Dr Phil show. He is a lawyer not a real doctor.

When he starts exploiting these children and their families, I hope the backlash is tremendous.


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From wikipedia

"McGraw graduated in 1975 from Midwestern State University with a Bachelor of Arts in psychology. He went on to earn a Master of Arts in experimental psychology in 1976, and a Doctor of Philosophy in clinical psychology in 1979 at the University of North Texas"

So, no, he's not a lawyer and he's not a medical doctor or a psychiatrist.

Now, he's what is known as a "pop psychologist" ... Not that pop psychology is bad, but often is incomplete from analysis to delivery for those setting out to make their living by it.

CXM_Splicer
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The problem with TV doctors like Phil or Dr. Drew is that there is serious potential for conflict between what is best for the patient and what is best for ratings. Of course they will tell you the patient always comes first but they could be altering their interactions without even realizing they are doing it.


FFH5
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Tips to help survivors and others affected by the incident:
»www.philly.com/philly/news/10_ti···edy.html


FFH5
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All the kids in the school will go to another school soon and it is possible Sandy Hook may never re-open.

»www.usatoday.com/story/news/nati···1773549/