This link was very useful. First, I changed the channel of one of the APs. I can see the MAC address of the AP that I am connected to when I move from one AP to the other (they are on far sides of my house). It didnt happen immediately, but it did change. I am going to try a few more things when I have the time, such as disabling wirelss on one of the APs, and then doing the same to the other.
And, yes, no love for AAPL folks.