thanks. of course after I post this I figure it out.
I started to think as if it were happening to me and worded my search that way. "Im receiving someone else's outlook calendar invites"
And found this...
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www.msoutlook.info/question/766I logged on as the user on a different computer and yep...delegation was on and about 13 names were on the list. I removed those names and all is well now.