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WARNING, parents:your child @ school & porn sites

hello everyone, hope your starting to have a good weekend, thought would pass this WARNING along to parents,jazzy

IF this can & DID happen here, well maybe it is time for you to ck with the school your child goes to & see what their policies & safeguards are in place. Jazzy
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Can kids access porn sites at school?
Local mother wanted to know
An Humble mother was concerned kids at her daughter's middle school could access porn sites on campus. So she went to the check for herself.
Do filters to block porn on school computers work
Click on images, so we did that and you have the option at the bottom to filter or not," she said. "I said, 'Take the filter off'
Humble ISD officials say they're aware students can access material over the Internet that is inappropriate for school age children. That's why they take steps to prevent it.

the reporter of this story
"I went into Kroger and their were two young girls," she said. "I said, 'Are you in high school' and they said 'Yes, we are.' I said, 'Have you all ever accessed porn or know anybody who did on the computer' and they said, 'Yes, all the time'&at school"

Jamil says if the school district doesn't do something to prevent students from being able to look at porn, she won't allow her daughter to use the Internet there next year.

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hello everyone, hope your starting to have a good weekend, thought would pass this WARNING along to parents,jazzy

Humble ISD officials say they're aware students can access material over the Internet that is inappropriate for school age children. That's why they take steps to prevent it.
Dosen't sound like School preventive steps are enough, if the site can still be accessed
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"I went into Kroger and their were two young girls," she said. "I said, 'Are you in high school' and they said 'Yes, we are.' I said, 'Have you all ever accessed porn or know anybody who did on the computer' and they said, 'Yes, all the time'&at school"
Sounds like a thoroughly-researched and convincing study to me.
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Sounds like a thoroughly-researched and convincing study to me.
Hey, that approach worked for Margaret Mead ...

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"I went into Kroger and their were two young girls," she said. "I said, 'Are you in high school' and they said 'Yes, we are.' I said, 'Have you all ever accessed porn or know anybody who did on the computer' and they said, 'Yes, all the time'&at school"
Sounds like a thoroughly-researched and convincing study to me.
LOL... that's exactly what I was thinking.
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Was that a private or a public one?

If public, then the State Goverment has got the power to completely lock the access to those pages.
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Was that a private or a public one?

If public, then the State Goverment has got the power to completely lock the access to those pages.
Humble,(name of city) ISD=(Independent School District)is public school
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And so what! If they do not see it there they are going down the street to some friends house and look there. And probably at the public library also. If they want to look they are gonna look and you ain't gonna stop it. A little one on one discussion on morals would be far better use of time.
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Oh, that's just crap. I'm not a parent, but I'd say there's plenty of stuff on the Internet that I don't think the average primary school student needs to see. And I'm not talking about simple pictures of people fucking.

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The article is about 1 libraray computer operated by 1 librarian with an image filter that could be turned off. The supporting information is 2 girls interviewed in Kroger.

From these snippets, a news station is able to whip up parental concern about porn, and morals, and threats to children, in order to increase/maintain viewership.

This happens thousands of times across the country each year, and people just fall in line asking for more censorship on the basis of little or no information.

There's not nearly enough information in the article to tell if there's even a problem with that one school. Perhaps there is, perhaps there isn't. More information is certainly needed. Now that they're vilified in the press for being inadequate parents, I'd imagine the school is checking.

Meanwhile the censorship train is loading up again. All aboard. Gotta save the children.
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The article is about 1 libraray computer operated by 1 librarian with an image filter that could be turned off. The supporting information is 2 girls interviewed in Kroger.
suggest you read the article again it is about a whole city,(and other cities)School districtsnot ONLY about 2 girls being interviewed at a krogers store

An Humble mother was concerned kids at her daughter's middle school could access porn sites on campus.
have a nice day, jazzy
ps. its not about ""a news station is able to whip up parental concern about porn,and morals"',
thats because SOME PARENTS,have no moral upbringing or concerns when it comes to "adult having babies" & parent having CHILDREN

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I agree that this is a very poorly researched and written article and it's whipping up the usual oh-my-god-a-nipple hysteria. (By the way, I wonder whether the 'image search' and the 'filter on/off option' was simply the usual Google search page; but the writer was too uninformed to be able to tell us).

But I don't think that the response of "so what, they'll see it anyway" is an appropriate position to take either, and that's the part I was replying to. Actually, that's pretty much off-topic and I probably shouldn't have bothered replying to tobicat See Profile.
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And so what! If they do not see it there they are going down the street to some friends house and look there. And probably at the public library also. If they want to look they are gonna look and you ain't gonna stop it. A little one on one discussion on morals would be far better use of time.
not to get into any arguments, but maybe IF some parents raised their children RIGHTtheir children would not even be thinking of porn in the 1st place,
But also believe that any public school, library,ect SHOULD block any type of porn,games,music,links that are offesive in language,image's or words[/b[ & and PARENTS HAVE A RIGHT to expect this type of protection for their children,you can call it CENSORSHIP,or freedom of speech or whatever, but when you,([B]NOT YOU PERSONALLY but a public school,library,ect) where my son or daughter is concerned, then you have no freedom speech around my loved one
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not to get into any arguments, but maybe IF some parents raised their children RIGHTtheir children would not even be thinking of porn in the 1st place,
It goes beyond fantasy to think that anything but castration will keep teenaged boys from thinking about naked women.

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It goes beyond fantasy to think that anything but castration will keep teenaged boys from thinking about naked women.

we are not talking about "fantasies",
(heck i'am still scraping mustard & egg yokes off the ceiling fan from last party-say WHAAAA,)
but seriously
we are talking about a public school/library allowing children access to pron sites
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we are talking about a public school/library allowing children access to pron sites
Yes, but you made the claim that the mere desire for porn was reflective of parenting, and I think that undermines much of the rest of your argument.
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no the article is about a parent TRYING to protect her daughter& i am & many parents are in agreement on that.

not about
but you made the claim that the mere desire for porn was reflective of parenting,quit trying to put something into a reply that is not written
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quit trying to put something into a reply that is not written
said by you, earlier :

not to get into any arguments, but maybe IF some parents raised their children RIGHT their children would not even be thinking of porn in the 1st place
Perhaps I misunderstood your argument.
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i give up

IF you don't UNDERSTAND the problem,then you cannot possibly understand how to solve it,or protect our children
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IF you don't UNDERSTAND the problem,then you cannot possibly understand how to solve it,or protect our children
I understand the problem perfectly well.

I believe that keeping kids from harmful images is a fine idea. Schools need to do some level of filtering so that education is not a porn-filled day, but I don't take the position that seeing the occasional two people gettin' it on is really all that damaging for a teenager.

There is also only so much that one can do in a large school of 2,000 kids to keep them from doing things they should not, and overreacting to images of naked people sends the message to kids that adults have a poor sense of perspective when it comes to what's important and what's not.

It's in the same class as this "zero-tolerance" nonsense regarding drugs: it's a dangerous message to give children.

But you've said that if parents raised their kids right, the kids would not want porn in the first place, and I think this reflects upon your understanding of adolescents, and in that manner casts a pall over the rest of your assessment of the issue.

If you want to pretend you didn't say that, well, I guess that's your prerogative.

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IF you don't UNDERSTAND the problem,then you cannot possibly understand how to solve it,or protect our children
I understand the problem perfectly well.

I believe that keeping kids from harmful images is a fine idea. Schools need to do some level of filtering so that education is not a porn-filled day, but I don't take the position that seeing the occasional two people gettin' it on is really all that damaging for a teenager.

There is also only so much that one can do in a large school of 2,000 kids to keep them from doing things they should not, and overreacting to images of naked people sends the message to kids that adults have a poor sense of perspective when it comes to what's important and what's not.

It's in the same class as this "zero-tolerance" nonsense regarding drugs: it's a dangerous message to give children.

But you've said that if parents raised their kids right, the kids would not want porn in the first place, and I think this reflects upon your understanding of adolescents, and in that manner casts a pall over the rest of your assessment of the issue.

If you want to pretend you didn't say that, well, I guess that's your prerogative.

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This is a good assessment of the problem. You can only do your best to teach your kids what is appropriate, and the schools can't stop it all either, software or no software. I think the age of the kids plays into it also.....I'd be much more upset if my six year old stumbled upon a porn site at school than I would be if it was my 17 year old.

There is something wrong with young children inadvertently losing their innocence too early, and no one seems to care about that.

Porn is not "love making", porn is people who don't love each other performing a sex act, *sometimes* degrading, aberrant or violent acts. Who in their right mind would want their grade school child coming across that on a school computer? I have no objections to porn at all....in the right place, at the right time, at an appropriate age. School and young children do not fit that criteria.

Having said that, the only true answer to the problem is disconnecting from the internet entirely in schools, and that just isn't going to happen. If the school is doing their best to stop it, with software and by NOT using school computers as babysitters (IE, WATCHING what the kids are doing at all times), I think that's all parents can ask of them or hope for.

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IF you don't UNDERSTAND the problem,then you cannot possibly understand how to solve it,or protect our children
No filter can be fully effective in blocking access to porn sites. People who expect schools and libraries to have 100% effective filters in place to do that are simply living in a fantasy world.
Also, what some people call "porn" varies considerably. Some people would call anything they find objectionable, including sex education materials, "porn" and go on crusades for censorship. In the end, nothing can take the place of having the kids themselves well adjusted enough to turn away from truly pornographic stuff when they stumble upon it. The stumbling upon that stuff is inevitable--it is how kids react to it that should be a realistic target for the efforts here, not an impossible sanitizing of the whole world in which they live.
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claud,Also, what some people call "porn" varies considerably. Some people would call anything they find objectionable,including sex education materials,

understood as you saying good sound argument,,what some people call "porn" varies considerably,
and yes nothing will be done UNLESS parents who care about their child's education ban togeather & to force the pron out of the schools & libraries,

THERE is a time & place for everything but a public school & a library isn't the place for porn
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claud,Also, what some people call "porn" varies considerably. Some people would call anything they find objectionable,including sex education materials,

understood as you saying good sound argument,,what some people call "porn" varies considerably,
and yes nothing will be done UNLESS parents who care about their child's education ban togeather & to force the pron out of the schools & libraries,

THERE is a time & place for everything but a public school & a library isn't the place for porn
As in a coalition. You expect everything to be 100% perfect? Nothing is this perfect..and that includes internet filters.

And I think you are acting PARANOID about your children, not everyone who uses the school computers or the library just to look at porn. One image isn't going to damage a HIGH SCHOOL kid in any way, shape, or form.

Also, you can't say you were an angel child when you were in your teenage years either.
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I'm smelling a thread-lock here, but any school or parent can put as much computer-filtering applications they want, but kids will still find a way to access what they're looking for.

Lets forget about Internet porn for a second.

When I was in high school from 1989 till 1993, the Internet really wasn't what it is today. If y'all can remember back that far, you might remember such terminology as "BBS's", "PCBoard", "14,400", "USR Robotics Dual Standard", and so on. Sure, a few people (like myself and some friends) used our 14,400's to dial into a local BBS to download some porn. I also checked the weather, read news, and researched.

After my high school years, I went off to an accredited institution, earning a degree in Economics, hold two jobs right now, and have a wonderful girlfriend and great family life. I turned out just fine, and I'm proud of who I am.

The vast majority of kids when I went to high school didn't even have computers yet, much less were they on the Internet as it existed then. Yet kids still fooled around in the bathrooms, and , people still got pregnant at the ripe old age of 17! Who woulda thunk it?

It's a reasonable assumption to want to filter content in schools for all sorts of reasons, but filtering adult content to "protect the children" is a battle that will always be lost. The argument that "bad kids only look at porn" is something I have an issue with, both personally and professionally.

Use filtering to minimize abuse on school machines and hope for a civil outcome.
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said by whocares See Profile :

not to get into any arguments, but maybe IF some parents raised their children RIGHT their children would not even be thinking of porn in the 1st place,
Raise them right so they wouldn't even think of porn? Do you castrate your high school kids to cut off any sexual instincts? And what's the deal with all the bold tags?

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IF some parents raised their children RIGHT their children would not even be thinking of porn in the 1st place...
What does it mean to "raise your children RIGHT"?

And what the hell has that to do with porn, anyways?

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said by whocares See Profile :

But also believe that any public school, library,ect SHOULD block any type of porn,games,music,links that are offesive in language,image's or words[/b[ & and PARENTS HAVE A RIGHT to expect this type of protection for their children,you can call it CENSORSHIP,or freedom of speech or whatever, but when you,([B]NOT YOU PERSONALLY but a public school,library,ect) where my son or daughter is concerned, then you have no freedom speech around my loved one
So, are you the type that is in favor of banning classic books such as Huckleberry Finn and Catcher in the Rye because they may contain "offensive language?" And exactly who is in charge of deeming what is "offensive" and what isn't? Banning pornography from public school computers is one thing, but the rest of what you are asking for is downright scary and represents everything that is wrong with "parenting" in this country at present.

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This is turning the world upside down. In case parents do talk enough and using open common sense, there's no need to worry about their children seeing porn. I've raised five, all have had their fair share of porn one way or the other (Playboy in the old days, internet lately). No harm done and all of them ended up very well, both emotional as for having a decent job.

So: those parents who dislike their kids seeing porn (if only they knew...) on school: pick one where filters are up. All other parents: sex and porn exists for ages and ages. No harm done and pick yourself a less rigid and more open minded school.
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said by fivetimeparent :

This is turning the world upside down. In case parents do talk enough and using open common sense, there's no need to worry about their children seeing porn. I've raised five, all have had their fair share of porn one way or the other (Playboy in the old days, internet lately). No harm done and all of them ended up very well,both emotional as for having a decent job.
So: those parents who dislike their kids seeing porn (if only they knew...) on school: pick one where filters are up. All other parents: sex and porn exists for ages and ages. No harm done and pick yourself a less rigid and more open minded school.

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This is turning the world upside down. I've raised five, all have had their fair share of porn one way or the other (Playboy in the old days, internet lately). No harm done and all of them ended up very well,both emotional as for having a decent job.
pick yourself a less rigid and more open minded school.
yes have to agree with SOME you about your statement,but thats as you said was a different time period,your sons,(men now)but back when you were raising your sons how many times did you hear of a young boy or girl being kidnapped,molested,killed or brutalized,& i would also dare say when playboy was being sold they were kept mostly behind the counter,
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pick yourself a less rigid and more open minded school.

oh you mean a school that allows teachers to molest students,or allows students to make out & get into some heavy " petting or necking" in the halls?? & not have to learn anything.
that argument fails, [b]anyway post says what needed to be said,PARENTS protect your children even while at school

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said by fivetimeparent :

This is turning the world upside down. I've raised five, all have had their fair share of porn one way or the other (Playboy in the old days, internet lately). No harm done and all of them ended up very well,both emotional as for having a decent job.
pick yourself a less rigid and more open minded school.
yes have to agree with SOME you about your statement,but thats as you said was a different time period,your sons,(men now)but back when you were raising your sons how many times did you hear of a young boy or girl being kidnapped,molested,killed or brutalized,& i would also dare say when playboy was being sold they were kept mostly behind the counter,
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pick yourself a less rigid and more open minded school.

oh you mean a school that allows teachers to molest students,or allows students to make out & get into some heavy " petting or necking" in the halls?? & not have to learn anything.
that argument fails, [b]anyway post says what needed to be said,PARENTS protect your children even while at school

Ask yourself how many people during that time had access to national and world media sources that spend most of their time doing nothing but writing up stories on kidnappings, molestations, brutalizations, and killings. Porn does not cause people to do those acts. These are not new topics. You are just able to receive more news from around the world than you were previously and news sources have found that these are the types of stories that interest people and increase their ratings.

There is no chance a school can protect your child 100%. For every 100 ways to filter, there are 100 ways to get around those filters. Technology has not advanced to a point where the computer can say "Hey, this is pornography, so I should filter it!"

If you truly want to protect your child from everything "negative" in the world, shut off the TV, shut take away ALL their video games, take away ALL their music, take away ALL their books, stop accepting the newspaper, stop accepting magazines, pull them from school and stick them in homeschooling, because otherwise it's just a matter of time before they run across something you don't like and go on a "WILL SOMEBODY THINK OF THE CHILDREN!!!!!!" rampage.

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... stories on kidnappings, molestations, brutalizations, and killings. Porn does not cause people to do those acts.
True, porn does not cause people to do those acts. Porn is but one of a number of passive media that cannot "cause" anybody to do anything. Behavior is a choice. But porn arguably does have an effect on people, if only to create in them a desire to see more of it or view nastier and more-explicit forms of it. If a person is inherently unstable or secretly fantasizes heavily about certain behavior, porn can encourage them to put thought and suggestion into action. And perhaps even show them how. Far too many serial killers and child molestors have come down the path with a documented history of severe porn fixation to ignore the connection in their lives and choices. That is not the same thing as saying porn causes such behavior... but it can and does influence it. Alcohol does not cause traffic accidents, but it has an influence on people who do cause accidents. Perhaps the most damning thing is that porn, by its inherent focus on self-gratification, leads to viewing people as mere objects for achieving self-gratification, much of the time at the expense of the other person's dignity. In the wrong minds, that can be as destructive as dynamite. And to the minds of the young, that viewpoint is as damaging as poison.

It never ceases to amaze me that folks who argue vehemently that media like TV, video, computers, books, etc can be such positive and effective tools to educating, improving, and motivating people (especially the young) will go into equally vehement denial that such media can be used destructively or have a negative impact or motivation on those same people.

But as to how best to raise a child in the real world, I agree with those who have indicated that the key lies in communicating with them openly and often about values and the choices they'll face or already are facing, and discussing with them the reasons for and consequences of those choices.

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... stories on kidnappings, molestations, brutalizations, and killings. Porn does not cause people to do those acts.
True, porn does not cause people to do those acts. Porn is but one of a number of passive media that cannot "cause" anybody to do anything. Behavior is a choice. But porn arguably does have an effect on people, if only to create in them a desire to see more of it or view nastier and more-explicit forms of it. If a person is inherently unstable or secretly fantasizes heavily about certain behavior, porn can encourage them to put thought and suggestion into action. And perhaps even show them how. Far too many serial killers and child molestors have come down the path with a documented history of severe porn fixation to ignore the connection in their lives and choices. That is not the same thing as saying porn causes such behavior... but it can and does influence it. Alcohol does not cause traffic accidents, but it has an influence on people who do cause accidents. Perhaps the most damning thing is that porn, by its inherent focus on self-gratification, leads to viewing people as mere objects for achieving self-gratification, much of the time at the expense of the other person's dignity. In the wrong minds, that can be as destructive as dynamite. And to the minds of the young, that viewpoint is as damaging as poison.

It never ceases to amaze me that folks who argue vehemently that media like TV, video, computers, books, etc can be such positive and effective tools to educating, improving, and motivating people (especially the young) will go into equally vehement denial that such media can be used destructively or have a negative impact or motivation on those same people.

But as to how best to raise a child in the real world, I agree with those who have indicated that the key lies in communicating with them openly and often about values and the choices they'll face or already are facing, and discussing with them the reasons for and consequences of those choices.

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Every single thing in the world has some effect or another on a person, but to cherrypick and say that this or that are the exact reasons that a person grows up to be this or that is ignorance. As I previously mentioned before, the only way to stop a person from being effected would be to shut them out from all forms of media and society. Even then, now you are influencing them in another way, but at least now the person can influence them exactly into believing what they want.

Most people know that all forms are media come with positive and negative impacts. Also, the same can be said about those who argue that media is nothing but negative and deny all that is positive about it.

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This was said before but I want to re-iterate....

This mother is doing more harm to her daughter than good by not allowing her on the internet at school. Also changing schools wont help anything either because I am betting that they all have some sort of site filter in place. The filters are not infallible, It could be some obscure porn site that was not blocked, or it could be the kids actively finding proxies to beat the filters. Basically this is going to happen where ever anyones kid goes to school....teenagers want porn and they will find work arounds to get it...
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Re: WARNING, parents:your child @ school & porn sites

loker, dang smart SENIBLE reply, thats one i/nor other parents never thought about, guess filters are like firewalls or SPAM they are not going to "catch" everything".
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I rather have my kids watch a R or X rated sex movie then a horror movie. Making love is good. Killing people is not.

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Re: WARNING, parents:your child @ school & porn sites

said by CPM See Profile :

I rather have my kids watch a R or X rated sex movie then a horror movie. Making love is good. Killing people is not.
I certainly agree. Our society feels it's all right to let kids see absolutely any form of violence 24/7. But, not nakedness and certainly NO love-making. We are a sick society.

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My High School is utterly worthless. They use the iPrism "St. Bernard" filtering hardware/software combo, and I'm not sure if it is the device itself, or the idiots that set it up, but regardless of what it is supposed to do, its nothing but a mere annoyance.

The system in place winds up blocking more legitimate sites than bad ones (In fact it misses many "bad sites"). And not only does it simply miss many things, but there are so many easy ways around the blocks that the majority of the student body/teachers are well aware of how to use. For example, in my graphics class, we often need to find things on the internet to use in projects. Simply navigating to images.google.com turns up blocked but images.google.us which immediately redirects to .com is ok. That is how we work around things to get work done. When the teacher has to instruct their students how to circumvent the blocks to get the school completed, you know there is a problem.

Also, this site, Broadband reports is blocked, however, its IP address is not. So htt p:// 209.123.109.175 works fine. Some more good sites that are blocked include (even for research/learning purposes)Message boards, NEWS SITES (Good thing we're blocking whats going on in the world, we wouldn't want our students to know that!), physics sites with flash videos and animations...the list goes on.

The truth is, that their filtering system does nothing. Block game sites? Kids find more. Block youtube, kids use google video. The system is nothing more than a giant frustration. Everyone that thinks filtering systems are terrific needs to see what happens when those systems get in the hands of a "highly qualified" IT, which in my school means someone with an art degree that knows how to use the Internet.

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Porn, kidnapping, what has the world coming too?

I yearn for the good old days, when clearly none of that ever happened.

Oh wait, I forgot about the lynchings, discrimination, abused workers, unequal rights for women, ect.

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but back when you were raising your sons how many times did you hear of a young boy or girl being kidnapped,molested,killed
Yes! You got it, no one was ever kidnapped, raped, molested or killed until those bastards put the first porn site up in the internet! Curse this dirty dirty world.

Michieru2
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I do not think that the government should be responsible for censorship. In all schools in my district we are to sign a contract stating that we will not use the schools internet for yatta yatta yatta. One of those lines lists access to any pornography.

If the student is too immature enough and his parents do not give him a nice smack in the ass every now and then he will lose his privilages and let the parents deal with how he/she will do an assignment on the computer.

With your thinking because a teenager bought a car he has the capability of running someone over so we should ban cars to teenagers.

Now the school is simply providing access to the internet, whether you like it or not you can use the internet to do a research project or to look at sex. If you want to protect your daughter or son get out of your ass from that couch and go take them to the library and help them out with their project but also monitor what sites they go too.

Also sex is part of education and if you want to restrict your son or daughter and have them choose who to marry because simply you do not agree with their decisions then go to these Saudi Arabia.
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Re: WARNING, parents:your child @ school & porn sites

said by Michieru2 See Profile :

In all schools in my district we are to sign a contract stating that we will not use the schools internet for yatta yatta yatta. One of those lines lists access to any pornography.

With your thinking because a teenager bought a car he has the capability of running someone over so we should ban cars to teenagers.
Michieru,no my #1 argument is PARENTS need to take responsibility & teach their children right from wrong,morals & BE A PARENT,
and in the new article the also showed where the student HAS TO sign a contracting stateing what you have mentioned.
so yes MAYBE mother should "talk to other parents" & to the school board,
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Re: WARNING, parents:your child @ school & porn sites

PARENTS need to take responsibility & teach their children right from wrong,morals & BE A PARENT,

um, that should NEVER include censorship. Morals/right from wrong and censorship, are not the same thing (totally). You are teaching your children to believe what YOU believe, not letting them make up their own minds, based on right from wrong, or even basic morals. If you want to take away internet acess, then you must, as someone already said, take away everything else, music, books etc. (EVERYTHING).

By taking away EVERYTHING that can in some way teach a child pretty much whatever they want to know, then you are living your childs life for them. YOU are censoring your own children. If that's what a person likes to do, then that's great. Do it to your OWN children, not everyone elses children.

This USED to be the land of the FREE. Now everyone wants to be in everyone elses business and telling them how to live their lives. When I think about it, telling "you" to stay out of other people's lives, is being a hypocrite too. The difference is, I prefer to let my children, and everyone elses child too, to live their OWN lives.

A Child can drive a car at the age of 16, but can't buy cigarettes until the age of 18. What's wrong there? They can be driving the car and be killed on the way home from getting their license, but they have to wait to kill themselves with cigarettes, until they are a much old age, and the disease will take years to kill them. Heck, I say ban cars.

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Re: WARNING, parents:your child @ school & porn sites

said by ric b See Profile :

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um, that should NEVER include censorship. Morals/right from wrong and censorship, are not the same thing (totally). You are teaching your children to believe what YOU believe, not letting them make up their own minds, based on right from wrong, or even basic morals. If you want to take away internet acess, then you must, as someone already said, take away everything else, music, books etc. (EVERYTHING).

By taking away EVERYTHING that can in some way teach a child pretty much whatever they want to know, then you are living your childs life for them. YOU are censoring your own children. If that's what a person likes to do, then that's great. Do it to your OWN children, not everyone elses children.

This USED to be the land of the FREE. Now everyone wants to be in everyone elses business and telling them how to live their lives. When I think about it, telling "you" to stay out of other people's lives, is being a hypocrite too. The difference is, I prefer to let my children, and everyone elses child too, to live their OWN lives.
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Wow, that's pretty much my whole view about all censorship..
[starts clapping]
Now get out of my head.
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Its your problem if you raised your kids to want porn. Sooner or later they will see it, and its better if they know what it is and ignore it, than see it and loose their minds. Its upto a kid to not search for it, than for a school to stop it. The kids has to know its not alright, and he has to leave the page, if he cant handle that, why is he on a computer in the first place?

A poster was right, lock your kid in a straight jacket in a cage if you dont want him to be "tainted". The straight jacket is to prevent him from going blind and growing furry palms, and getting cancer (the devils disease) and burning in the arms of Satan and Witches for Eternity.

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Oh my, Jazzy, you have completely overlooked the real issue here: the reason these kids are so interested in porn is because of that naughty rock & roll and rap music that they listen to. Now run off to the RIAA- maybe they'll lend a sympathetic ear.

Mchart
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Would you please stop posting these utterly worthless threads? Seriously. Kids will find any way possible to view porn. They aren't as innocent as you like to think. Stop making these absurd threads and get a grip on your life.
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Re: WARNING, parents:your child @ school & porn sites

said by Mchart See Profile :

Would you please stop posting these utterly worthless threads? Seriously. Kids will find any way possible to view porn. They aren't as innocent as you like to think. Stop making these absurd threads and get a grip on your life.
Mchart
IF you don't want to read or discuss the issue thats fine,& you don't care about how or what your kid becomes,
but MAYBE,just MAYBE,the post WILL cause other parents to teach their child or children right from wrong,porn is like cigarettes or drugs,you have to talk to your children about them & teach them its wrong

as far as contiuing this post,[b]what was posted HAS BEEN GIVEN a good discussion
by most
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i'll let the teens, kids & people that like to argue among themselves,have this post

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I think the wrong issue is being discussed. Yes, porn is accessible in many schools. We all know that filtering isn't 100% effective. Fixes using this technology are just band-aids for the real issue.

I want to know why nobody is questioning the SUPERVISION of these students while they're using the computers. Too often, school computers are treated as electronic babysitters, as if they were just some sort of over-complicated CD player.

Computers need to be positioned so that monitors are visible to others. Someone needs to be doing their job and watching the students while they're in class. The computer is just the medium; it could just as easily be a porn magazine or a "travel-size" DVD player loaded with the latest Girls Gone Wild.

I say take the focus off of what they're using to view porn and work on how and why they're able to do it in the classroom in the first place.
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Big deal, so lil Johnny sees a penis penetrating a vagina. Whoooopeeee!

If you want to rally behind a cause, go after movie content like the Texas Chainsaw Massacre. (Saw the OnDemand previews, now that sh!t actually turns my stomach.)

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Kids looking at porn on the internet is the same as kids stealing their daddy's Playboy magazines years ago.

Kids(boys in particular) have been secretly looking at porn forever.
You are not going to stop it totally, matter of fact, I dare to say it will get harder to stop unless other measures be put in place. (Rap music ect)
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porn is like cigarettes or drugs,you have to talk to your children about them & teach them its wrong
Sorry, but stating porn is on one and the same level as cigarettes or even drugs and wrong is a gros misconception. People, children included, have been growing up with porn and sex as far back as the old Greeks and Romans. That's the way it has been and always will be. Nothing wrong with that. Learn your children what it's all about and provided you do it the right way, there's nothing to worry about.
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The Teacher's union would ban the study of what the difference between a Democracy and a Republic are. If the kids watch porn at school, then they don't have enough homework.

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"Click on images, so we did that and you have the option at the bottom to filter or not," she said. "I said, 'Take the filter off' and she did and asked 'Now what?' and I said 'Type in spank.' And then she pressed 'go' and two minutes later, it was full of naked women all over the screen."
It sounds like they are talking about Google image search.

Most filtering software works by blocking specific sites, images, pages with keywords, etc... Since one instance of "spank" probably isn't enough for most keyword filters to block the page, and the images are thumbnails which have been processed by Google, I doubt many filters will selectively block images on GIS without blocking the whole thing.

The option to turn off the filter is given by Google, not the school.

Anyway, what I remember most about the filter we had in high school (N2H2 Bess), is that it wasn't very accurate. First, I will say that it was reasonably good at not blocking appropriate pages as porn. Unfortunately, the administrator had enabled a bunch of other banned categories, which were not as conservative in their filtering.

Often, completely benign pages were blocked under some random category, like "Sexual content" or "Hate speech". Often, the reason was that there was someone elsewhere on the site which met one of those categories and the whole site was blocked.

While porn is not usually found alongside legitimate research material (for high school students anyway), certain kinds of other banned material maybe. Among the most problematic categories were (I don't remember the names exactly): "Hate speech", which often included anything that wasn't politically correct. "Drugs/gambling", which meant anyone doing a research paper on substance abuse was in for a difficult time. "Sexual content", a very wide category which would include anything from many health sites to actual pornography. As everyone already knows, the "Nudity" category frequently blocks entire art sites because of (gasp!) nudity. Oh, and last, but not least, my favorite "Crimes/Illegal activities", which frequently included things like legitimate computer security sites.

The net result was that it frequently got in the way of legitimate research. Once, I wrote a research paper on Internet censorship. That one was especially difficult to research at school, since the filter also blocked pages related that gave information about filtering software. A friend had a similar problem when doing a research paper that was related to computer games. The filter also blocked game related sites.

Frequently, I would be trying to find a page about a legitimate topic (I was one of the kids who didn't use the computers to search for porn), and would get a blocked page message. I would go to my trusty encrypted off-site proxy, and visit the page anyway. 80% of the time, it would be completely benign (and I would think to myself "WTF is with this filter?"). 15% of the time, there would be something on the page which could explain why it was filtered, but wasn't really that bad (a health site with some articles on sexual topics, a computer security site which has information about exploits, the site has an article about drug abuse, etc...). Only around 5% of the time would the page actually have anything that would make sense to filter.

As I said before, the filtering of porn actually worked OK (at least as far as having few false positives), but the other categories were very subjective and often included things which were not really appropriate to block for high schoolers. It probably would have worked much better had they limited it to blocking porn and only porn. Very rarely were any of the false positives categorized as porn.

As for the effectiveness in actually blocking porn, I can't really say much, since I didn't test it, although I know it didn't block GIS with SafeSearch turned off either.

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